Win-Win

I hear this expression often these days to describe a situation in which both sides of confrontation or disagreement seem to benefit. I understand the intent but when I was a kid we used to play basketball on court with a basket that had been hit by a plow and was now at an odd angle yet still had a hoop attached. We would clear the court of snow in the middle of winter to play games on a half frozen surface with tilted backboard to WIN games. We kept score because that is what you do in sports...you try to beat the other guy and WIN. Guess what...when you win he would LOSE. It was fun to win and hard to lose. I learned a great deal playing those games...I learned about friendship,sacrifice for the team and things like hard work can be fun.   I learned how to WIN. I also learned that you don't always win in life and its what you learn when you lose that can be the best lesson.

Now winning isn't everything and as I get older my need to win in every situation as turned to enjoying the game more than the score. Now I'm still a competitor and I like to beat the next guy when I have to but not every situation is competition. I guess that is what people say when the use the expression win-win. There are times when compromise works best for everyone. But please can somebody come up with something else to call it and leave the winning and losing to the rest of life